I know, I know. You’ve been told you’re “throwing money away on rent.” Someone in your life made you feel guilty for not buying a house and building equity. And let me guess: They said something like, “Ugh, I just hated paying someone else’s rent!”
There’s just one problem: It’s not true.
First, let me ask you a simple question: Do you “throw money away” when you eat out at a restaurant? Of course not. You’re paying for value.
Yet somehow this logic totally falls apart when you apply it to real estate.
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I decided to run a poll on Twitter to ask what people thought.
Not surprisingly, 95% of people said, “No, you didn’t ‘throw money away’ on a nice meal.”
Then I asked the same question — but for rent.
Notice the drop from 95% to 81% when I asked if I was ‘throwing money away renting.’” In other words, many more people believe that renting is throwing money away.
You and I know that if we spend $20 eating out, we’re happy to spend it to get good food, table service, and someone who cleans up our dishes. 
Paying for rent is exactly the same: You’re paying for a roof over your head (the meal). You’re also paying for a landlord to deal with any paperwork and maintenance issues (the service).
So why do so many of us blindly repeat this phrase that we’re “throwing money away on rent?”
Understanding why this myth persists is the first step in understanding the truth about buying vs renting. Check out these reasons why many people believe that rent is a waste — what do you notice?
The powerful real estate lobby, the government, and our parents all tell us that “real estate is the best investment of all.” There are even governmental tax incentives to buy! Repeat this for decades and a population starts to blindly believe, rather than run the numbers. 
Here’s a tiny glimpse of how the real estate propaganda machine works. In this article from the New York Times, buying a house is subtly portrayed as the ultimate, foolproof way to get rich in America. Fast. Hurry! Prices only go up! Add in HGTV, economic malaise, & phrases like “you’re throwing money away on rent.”
“Minus expenses.” LOL. Given that “expenses” can run over 10% of a house’s selling price, that’s like me saying, “I really enjoyed this trip to the Grand Canyon! All except for the part where my son fell off a cliff and died. Anyway, it was fun!”
In reality, real estate is not always the best investment. It comes with significant phantom expenses. And there are often better investments, such as a simple low-cost index fund.
This is well-understood by sophisticated investors but ordinary Americans have been duped into thinking their primary residence is a great investment. Often, it is not. (I could buy today but I rent by choice because it is a better option for me.)
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In America, we believe that our house should also be an investment. Why? It’s not like that in many other countries. In fact, if you sit down at the dinner table with your parents, they want the price of their house to stay high — while younger people want the price of housing to go down!
Americans HATE the idea that someone is making money off them. A Reddit comment said (paraphrased) “If you buy, it might cost more but at least you won’t be paying your landlord’s rent.”
Do you understand how crazy this is? When you eat out, do you say, “I like the food here but I just hate paying this restaurateur’s rent?” Of course not. We only repeat this phrase with real estate. Stop it.
People believe if you buy a house for $200K and sell it for $450K, you make $250K. This is false. They don’t understand maintenance, taxes, and other phantom costs, and they don’t compare ROI to other investments. Also, did you know real estate prices also go down?
Buying a house was, in general, a good thing for most Boomers. There were also fewer low-cost investment options like index funds in the 70s and 80s. Therefore, stuck in the past, they parrot the same lessons to millennials, who face unaffordable housing, stagnating wages, and better investment options.
This is the problem when people (Boomers) recommend something, but don’t actually understand why it works: They just keep repeating it, over and over, even though the situation has changed.
Renting is a great way to get started on the path to homeownership. When you rent, you don’t have to worry about keeping up with repairs, maintenance, and other costs that come with owning a home.
You also gain flexibility in your living situation: if you want to move for a job opportunity or other reasons, later on, it’s much easier to do so when you’re renting than if you own a home.
Home ownership has its benefits too—it gives people an opportunity to build equity and wealth over time. However, there are many hidden costs that come with buying a home that is easy to overlook until after the fact.
If you plan ahead and budget accordingly, it’s possible to buy a place without getting overwhelmed by unexpected expenses.
Renting isn’t necessarily better than buying and buying isn’t necessarily better than renting. It depends on many things:
My advice: Run the numbers and get educated. But never, ever say you’re “throwing money away on rent.”
Renting is not a waste of money. In fact, many people make the mistake of assuming that renting is a waste of money. The truth is that renting is actually an important part of the housing market and allows people to live in areas where they might otherwise be unable to afford to buy a home.
Additionally, as a renter, you are not responsible for many of the costly expenses associated with home ownership. Therefore, in many cases, it is actually smarter to rent than buy.
If you’re thinking about buying a home, it’s important to be aware of your total expenses as a homeowner. While it’s true that the mortgage payment might be less than what you’d pay in rent, there are other costs that you’ll need to factor in.
The biggest one is property taxes. As a homeowner, if the value of your home goes up over time, so do your property taxes. This can add up quickly and make owning your own home more expensive than renting.
Another expense that is unique to homeowners is trash pick-up. If your landlord has not included this in their rental agreement, then you may have to pay for it yourself as a homeowner (or hire someone else to do it for you).
Personal finance is just that: personal. Run the numbers, consider your personal situation and goals, then make the best (and informed!) decision based on the information you gather.
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